REPATTERNED

How to Transform Your Conflict Defaults and Reclaim Your LIfe

We don’t choose our conflicts.
We repeat them.
Until we change the pattern.

This book helps you interrupt emotional autopilot, find your voice in hard moments, and choose a different response.

Coming May 2026!

Change how you respond in conflict

More choice when emotions run high

Pause before reacting, understand what’s happening in your body, and choose a response that fits the moment.

A practical framework for real moments

Learn a simple, repeatable way to interrupt emotional autopilot and respond with clarity instead of reflex.

Your voice, without escalation or shutdown

Express what matters without exploding, withdrawing, or abandoning yourself.

Meet the author

I didn’t write this book from a pristine mountaintop. I wrote it between school drop-offs, coaching sessions, and my own moments of failure.

My background is a blend of the scientific and the soul. I have a degree in molecular biology and spent nearly twenty years climbing corporate ladders at companies like Google and Intuit.

But my real education came from the trenches of divorce, co-parenting, blended families, and learning that "keeping the peace" is often just a fancy name for self-betrayal.

I’m a conflict resolution coach, a student of my own patterns, and a believer that we can all learn to stay present, even when the heat rises.

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What readers say

“This book helped me notice what’s happening in my body before I say something I regret. That pause alone has changed how I handle hard conversations.”— Jordan S.

“I’ve read a lot about conflict and communication. This was one of the first books that made sense in the moment, not just after the fact.”
— Olivia J.

“I didn’t realize how automatic my reactions were until I started paying attention to the way this book suggests. It feels practical, not preachy.”— Aisha R.

Exhale–Explore–Engage™

We think we’re reacting to the moment. Usually, we’re reacting to a script written decades ago.

I wrote Repatterned because I lived in that snarl. I froze in conflicts. I appeased to stay safe. I over-functioned until I was exhausted.

This book isn't about learning to "win" arguments. It’s about the Exhale – Explore – Engage™ method—a framework to help you notice the impulse, trace the pattern, and choose a response that doesn't require abandoning yourself.

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